I am a black woman
not a sassy black woman, not an angry black woman, not a strong black woman
and definitely not an independent black woman
I live with my mom
I eat my own food and mind my own business.
Yes, I mind my own business
This last is a skill I’m still mastering because society has taught me to be okay with everyone being in mine:
in my hair, in my mouth (yes I say the N Word), in my body…
There is no amber alert for amber skinned girls
So I sit at home with my mom learning how to circumnavigate the being that is myself,
Learning how to love myself and not the women they say I am
No, I don’t cook, cater, or clean for anyone except myself,
No, I am not aggressive, loud, stubborn…
(well at least not next to your drunken white Auntie)
And no, I don’t need a man.
I just want one.
– Mikali-Elon Wallace